Being the “Right Person”

  When you feel like you’re with the wrong person….. “He doesn’t ever listen to me!” “How many times do I have to tell him this? Why is he so selfish?” “Why can’t she just remember _________ (fill in the...

Validate to De-Escalate

Validate to De-Escalate So often- literally every (work) day, I have at least one client who comes in incredibly frustrated because their significant other, their child, their parent, their boss, their co-worker, their employee, etc. (you name it) was unable to and...

No Shaming. No Blaming. No Criticizing.

No shaming. No blaming. No criticizing.  It’s what was preached to me, as an Imago client, it’s what was reiterated to me as an  Imago trainee and it’s what I implement as one of the standard guidelines for all my couples, ESPECIALLY when they are in...

Why Your Past Matters

I’m a big proponent of being in the present and focusing on the now, however…there is an old saying that holds a lot of value, “If it’s hysterical, it’s historical.”  When we have an overly strong reaction to a situation or a person...

Using Anxiety as Motivation

If you’ve ever felt anxiety or panic, you know that it absolutely sucks!  It often feels overwhelming and unmanageable. It’s an emotion that quickly and easily takes over.  In a moment, your brain can be hijacked by anxiety and you’re left feeling...

Taming your Inner Critic

Probably like you, I can be my own worst critic. I’ve gotten a lot better and am still improving, but I used to judge myself pretty harshly for just about everything.  I wasn’t always aware of how often my self-criticism was looping in my head and how much...

Timing is Everything

It’s interesting to sit down and really consider the notion that the only thing truly equal, to us all,  is the amount of time we have.  It’s how we choose to spend it that makes all the difference.  I used to constantly use the excuse:  “I...

The Power of Personal Struggle

There is no doubt that it sucks when you’re focused on and expecting a certain outcome and something completely unexpected happens. You don’t get what you want the way you wanted it. We all deal with disappointment at sometime or another. The way to deal...